20 Days Till Heaven…Day 7 – Confessions, Cards and Journals

October 22, 2017 Michael Weese Comments 0 Comment

20 Days Till Heaven…Day 7 – Confessions, Cards and Journals

Memories from October 22nd, 2016 – Day 7

Today is going to be a short day. It was a Saturday, which means that I was with her the majority of the day. So the calls, texting and things that I normally use for the memories and building the story are limited.

She started off the day sending me a text with a simple confession. A weird one of course, but I am glad that she shared these little things with me. Plus it was probably helpful for her to share these abnormal things with me so that she didn’t feel as if she was going crazy.

Pierce had a pretty nasty bug today as well. He had diarrhea and was vomiting. One of Kate’s friends sent me a message that helped me recall this situation. Kate had sent me some messages earlier on this day about Pierce, but they included the inappropriate word for diarrhea. I was reluctant to share a screenshot of it. I am sure a good portion of this day was spent cleaning up these things and wiping down things with disinfectant wipes.

During the day Kate also had a visit from her cousins Megan and Kristen. I was reminded by Kristen that during this visit while Pierce was not feeling well, he started to vomit. Kate being the Mom that she jumped into action and caught it in her hands so that it would not get on the sofa. Just more proof that being a mother was her number one priority even when she herself was not doing well.

Moving along, something that I have only shared with a few people, happened today as well. A few months prior to this day Kate had this great idea. One night when we were talking we started discussing how we should make journals for the kids and also buy birthday cards, graduation cards, wedding cards, and fill them out. We thought that maybe one day they would appreciate being able to open these things from Mommy. We also talked about how it could make them upset as well. Either way, I was sold. I would rather have these things to offer to them and have them decline than to not have them to offer at all. Every so many days I would hound her to order some cards online or go to the store with me to pick them out. I had a sense that time was running out, and I really loved this idea.

Here is an audio clip of that call.

Later in the evening a little while before the kids bed time I sent her a picture just letting her know that we were OK as she rested in bed. She also wanted some more of that cheese that she loved so much along with some bologna this time.

Kate would spend a lot of time resting in bed, she was technically in hospice care after all. It was often a lot and took her breath away just to perform easy tasks. We would communicate via phone calls and text messaging even if we were in the same house, because it was easier than yelling or coming to find me.

Looks like as I was playing in the basement with Pierce she would call for me to help because Grantley had already escaped over the baby gate from his room. I guess he wasn’t ready to go to sleep just yet.

Here is an audio clip of that call.

Above I talked about journals and cards. We actually already had the journals. I had purchased them a few weeks prior. She sent me a message to let me know that she was finally working on them. I was beyond excited. Her plan was to start with their birth stories and come back every night to add a new story.

In the message above I also asked her if she wanted to have a go at putting Pierce to bed. I can’t remember if she actually put him to bed, but they definitely spent some time together playing on the iPad before the night was over.