The Widower Dad

20 Days Till Heaven…Day 16 – Pumpkin Surprise, Raindrops on Roses, and Trick or Treat Memories Memories from October 31st, 2016 – Day 16 I shared a lot of memories on yesterdays post as far as videos, pictures, and messages go.  I didn’t really touch a lot on how things were going with Kate.  I just want to share a little bit on how things were going health wise with Kate on this day.  A few messages and calls that…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 15 -Sunday Fun-day, OK To Let Go, and Mint Chocolate Chip Memories from October 30th, 2016 – Day 15 This day was a Sunday, and it looks as if we had the entire day together as a family in the house.  It looks like we were fortunate to document a lot of things this day.  We had a few calls, some nice pictures and also some videos of everyone hanging out. Kate was able to come…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 14 – Find Someone, Freddy K, and Guilt Trip Memories from October 29th, 2016 – Day 14 So today would start what I guess you could say was our last full weekend together.  It feels crazy to even type that out, but it was exactly that.  She wasn’t feeling terrible this day, but you could say she was tired.  I remember it all fairly well by looking at some of the things that we did and…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 13 – Sin Inquiry, Finished Happy, and Good Snack Choice Memories from October 28th, 2016 – Day 13 When I write these posts I have no idea, what the next day will bring, except for her last two days here.  I remember those very well.  For the most part I just come and sit at the computer and start going through everything for the day before I start to type.  Occasionally I will try to listen…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 12 – Hosanna, Losing You, and Happy Under Construction Memories from October 27th, 2016 – Day 12 We start this day off a little different.  We don’t have our normal good morning call.  I believe it’s because she was getting some rest and the Pastor was coming to the house to visit with her. I do get a charming message instead. We have only two calls recorded for this day, one of them was me calling,…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 11 – Setting The Stage, Urn Emoji, and Check Yourself Memories from October 26th, 2016 – Day 11 Moving on with the remaining 10 days I want to set the context and mentality of which we were living by.  It may help to make sense of some things that I haven’t had a chance to mention.   It may seem strange or unsympathetic that I was continuing to work while all this is going on.  It may…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 10 – If You Have A Bad Day…Pray Memories from October 25th, 2016 – Day 10 Today doesn’t start off on the best note, but it’s not a terrible note either.  We don’t get too far into our good morning call before she stops me and interjects.  She says that she doesn’t want me to talk about eating today or say anything else about it.  She tells me that she is going to have some cereal…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 9 – Spreading Germs, Cinnamon Toast, and Lilly Pulitzer Memories from October 24th, 2016 – Day 9 In life there are always situations that we will never understand until we are part of them.  You will never truly understand the ins and outs or the emotions involved until you are a part of it.  It doesn’t matter how many books you read, movies you watch, or people try to give you advice.  Your understanding will be…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 8 – Piggybacks, Cheer Support, Visits, and Italian Wedding Soup Memories from October 23rd, 2016 – Day 8 New day, new memories, but reality remains the same.  I can tell by listening to things that her cough is becoming more steady and happening more often.  Breathing and coughing has been a problem since March, but it would fluctuate and get better at times as certain medicines and chemotherapy would help.  Being treated for the cancer is…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 7 – Confessions, Cards and Journals Memories from October 22nd, 2016 – Day 7 Today is going to be a short day.  It was a Saturday, which means that I was with her the majority of the day.  So the calls, texting and things that I normally use for the memories and building the story are limited. She started off the day sending me a text with a simple confession.  A weird one of course, but…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 6 – Disney Smells, Nurse, and Sleepover Memories from October 21st, 2016 – Day 6 This day from a year ago started off a little rough.  We spoke in the morning after she sent me a text describing how she was feeling.  On the call she was complaining of a terrible migraine, being super hot, and throwing up.  She was borderline crying and clearly upset a little.  I told her to try one of the new…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 5 – Field Trip, Delicious Flower Bouquet, and Last Picture Memories from October 20th, 2016 – Day 5 I usually start off these daily posts with our “good morning” call, but looking into the audio files today we only had four calls recorded and the 1st one wasn’t until 5:27 pm.  Out of those four calls, two were blank with no sound 🙁 and one was just me speaking, you could not hear her responding.  So…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 4 – Share The News, Happy Dwarf, and People Are Awesome Memories from October 19th, 2016 – Day 4 I felt kind of weird sitting here thinking about how to open the post for today.  I was cautious when listening to the 1st call that we had recorded for today thinking that it was going to be dreadful, but surprisingly it wasn’t at all.  It once again was just like any other day.  Just another reminder…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 3 – I Get To Be Happy Now, This Is A Positive Thing Memories from October 18th, 2016 – Day 3 Today Kate woke up feeling a little exhausted.  This was the first time we spoke in the morning, she really just said that she was a little tired and a few other random things.  She did however end our 1st call with, “I love you so much.”  That made it special of course.  Adding the…

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20 Days Till Heaven…Day 2 – Do You Kiss Me, Co-Pays, Pinterest, and Scans Memories from October 17th, 2016 – Day 2 This day started off much like any other morning.  We spoke on the phone several times throughout this day, two times during the morning.  She surprisingly told me that she was feeling well.  She did however say that her nose was stuffy and that she needed some water. I made mention of buying her a surprise for after…

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